Women Who Love Early Bedtimes, Peace & Their Two Good Friends Usually Have 11 Specific Traits
Jacob Lund | ShutterstockGoing to bed early is great if it's getting you more sleep, and having close friends makes us better, happier people. But women who love early bedtimes, along with peace and two good friends, usually have specific personality traits that double as rare superpowers.
Whether it's putting themselves first or following a moral code of self-respect, their personalities cultivate happiness that others miss completely. While their ability to live life without falling victim to external opinions and status-seeking endeavors is rare, so is their happiness. Luckily, it's a kind of happiness and peace that everyone has the power to cultivate, with the right mentality and habits.
Women who love early bedtimes, peace, and their only two good friends usually have 11 specific personality traits
1. Their most important relationship is with themselves
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Instead of expecting other people and romantic relationships to fill an internal void that can only be filled with self-love, women truly make the relationship they share with themselves their main priority. They don't weave their self-worth into what people think about them or external validation, but instead work on building inner trust, strength, and confidence.
They are the most stable thing in their lives, at all times, so even when they break up with someone or lose a friend, they can come back to their routine and self-care for support. Of course, ironically, these women are also the most magnetic, because the energy they invest in themselves is almost always reflected back to them from others.
2. They're introverted
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If someone's introverted or has introverted tendencies, they actually need solitude in their routines in order to recharge their social batteries. Unlike extroverted people, who feel more energized after spending time around other people, introverts find peace and comfort in spending time alone and being picky with the people they choose to spend time with.
That's usually why their social circles are smaller. They prefer to prioritize the quality of their connections over making a million superficial friends. Even if that means protecting an early bedtime to get home for quiet time or occasionally disappointing people to put themselves first, these are the choices that end up doing them a favor in the long run.
3. They avoid social norms that don't suit them
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Women are often happier without children or a spouse, so if they're not motivated to follow traditional social pathways in adulthood, like starting a family or getting married, they don't. The happiest women, who have quality friendships, peace in their lives, and comfortable routines, don't make space for things that don't serve them just because everyone else expects them to.
While some people can't help but cling to these traditional expectations for some form of approval or external validation from others, these women are gratified internally. They know what they want, and they love themselves regardless of the choices they make, so doing things for other people's attention isn't attractive or alluring at all.
4. They're goal-oriented
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People who are ambitious and motivated enough to actually chase after their goals can't be wasting time on things and people who don't serve them. Whether that's night owl behaviors to distract from silence, toxic friendships with people they've outgrown, or a pressure to seek validation from others, truly happy, ambitious women don't entertain any of it.
They have a routine they're obsessed with, invest in their time, and manage their energy by only making time for things that actually serve them. While it takes a lot of practice to care about and love yourself enough to shift your priorities, in the long run, it's a superpower.
5. They're disciplined
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Instead of leaning into the allure of convenience or being swayed by impulsive thoughts, truly self-assured women practice more discipline in their routines. Whether it's making the decisions to save money, go to bed early to protect their sleep, or invest in friendships, even when it gets tough, they rarely take the easy way out.
As a study shared by the Association for Psychological Science explains, having the self-control to make decisions in your best interest is one key to happiness in life. You're investing in your well-being and learning to put yourself first, even if it means leaning into discomfort to grow as a person.
6. They're emotionally stable
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According to a study shared by BBC Science Focus, women who are early morning risers aren't just happy, they're also protected against a lot of the mental health struggles that night owls face. They're emotionally stable, well-rested, and comfortable with alone time in intentional doses, while people who stay up too late may sabotage all of those things by distracting themselves away from bed.
Of course, all the things that come naturally to emotionally intelligent women, like regulating emotions and having productive conversations, also contribute to happiness as women get older. They don't have to get defensive and run away from conflict because they have the foundation of self-assuredness and clarity to pull from.
7. They know how to integrate gratitude into their lives
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Experts from Harvard Health agree that introducing gratitude practices into your daily life can actually boost your mood and happiness almost instantly.
Especially because we live in a culture that tends to focus on what we're "missing" from our lives, women who instead appreciate what they have can live with more peace. Whether that means appreciating their ability to rest, investing in meaningful friendships, or doing small things like keeping a gratitude journal, they're not living from a place of scarcity but instead of love, joy, and appreciation.
8. They don't let self-criticism take over
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Many people living unhappy lives and feeling unfulfilled are their own worst enemies. Whether it's blaming themselves for making mistakes, hiding from growth, or constantly judging themselves internally throughout the entire day, they create more unnecessary stress and pressure from being hard on themselves.
In place of thought-spirals and self-judgment, the happiest, most peaceful women integrate self-affirmations into their routines that boost well-being. They shift their language in the moment to be a little bit more positive and make their minds a happier place to reside.
9. They don't dwell on things for too long
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The most disciplined people make choices and stick to routines without dwelling on them for too long. They don't spend hours, or even minutes, entertaining thoughts like "I really don't want to do this" or "What if I pushed this to tomorrow?" and instead use that time to take action.
Instead of trying to manage their time, they manage their energy in every aspect of their lives. It's part of what brings more peace into their routines. They don't have to bargain with themselves or take on a ton of anxiety when they're trying to take care of themselves. They just do it for the sake of their future self.
10. They rarely compare themselves to others
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While realistic upward comparisons can sometimes motivate us to show up for ourselves a little bit better, most of the time, social comparisons come with all kinds of consequences. From lowering our self-worth to creating unrealistic expectations for success, we sabotage our peace and happiness by trying to be like everyone else, or the misleading curation of themselves they share online.
However, women who make routines that work for them and invest in their peace rarely compare their lives. They may occasionally get jealous of people, but they let those complicated feelings serve as a reminder of what they can do better, not what they're lacking.
11. They're direct communicators
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Both to themselves when they need "tough love" and in their relationships, the happiest women are direct. In fact, it's a love language and a form of kindness in itself. Nobody has to guess what they're thinking or feeling, themselves included, and they reduce the misunderstandings that tend to cause disconnection and conflict.
Even if it means building the trust in themselves to be honest when they make a mistake or do something wrong, they end up happier because they can be accountable for their behavior.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a senior editorial strategist with a bachelor's degree in social relations & policy and gender studies who focuses on psychology, relationships, self-help, and human interest stories.
