Men Who Are Easy To Love Say 11 Simple Phrases On A Regular Basis
Jose Porras Perez | ShutterstockSome men are naturally more charming than others, particularly when it comes down to the words they use. And in their partnerships, men who are easy to love say certain simple phrases on a regular basis.
While society has told men that masculinity is defined by aggression and physical strength, men like this aren't afraid to openly express how they feel about another person. They're genuinely decent humans who remain open-minded and committed in their romantic relationships, as well as the bonds with their family and friends. And it really makes them stand out.
Men who are easy to love say these 11 simple phrases on a regular basis
1. 'Wait, listen to her'
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Most men don't realize how often women are ignored and talked over. It's one of the biggest pet peeves among women, in fact. Worse still, many men tend to talk over them or excuse others who have the same bad habit. Women may talk at the same time, but it's done as a way of showing support rather than taking over the conversation.
But a man who stops a conversation after a woman has been steamrolled will stand out from others. This is especially true if he's saying it on behalf of a woman he's not necessarily interested in. It's a sign of serious self-awareness and is also attractive to others.
2. 'Do you need anything?'
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There are few things as attractive as a man who thinks of others before himself and is truly selfless by nature. Men who find themselves loved by many tend to watch for the needs of other people, without expecting anything in return. Women take notice when a man goes out of his way to ask if she needs anything.
In fact, attractive people are generally more generous than those who are not. It also happens to be a two-way street. Attractive people are also expected to be more generous, and people who are generous tend to be seen as more attractive.
3. 'I'm sorry, this was wrong of me'
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Women have almost all certainly met the type of guy who absolutely, positively can't stand admitting wrongdoing or offering apologies for their poor behavior. Men like this would rather be miserable and "correct" than be happy and apologize.
A refusal to apologize is not just an unattractive trait, it also kills your ability to keep relationships healthy. As psychotherapist Kimmy Wu noted, "Heartfelt apologies show your willingness to take responsibility for your actions and that you value the relationship. It can mend broken bonds and rebuild trust." And you can't have love without trust.
4. 'Don't talk about my friend like that'
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Did you ever see a friend talk poorly about you to another friend? Or have you watched friends refuse to defend you to others? It's one of the most heartbreaking things you can experience and is a betrayal on multiple levels. It's a type of betrayal that shakes you to your core and can even make others rethink their ties to such people.
But men who are easy to love have no problem defending the people they hold dear, and will defend them against others gossiping or speaking negatively. Seeing a person who is assertive enough to actually defend the people they care about from mean comments is an amazing thing. It's not just attractive, it's downright impressive.
5. 'You're right'
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Ever notice how often some men avoid saying that someone other than them is right? Well, as it turns out, that's a good way for a decent guy to become unattractive and unlovable. Behavioral scientist Nuala G Walsh explained that people tend to love to prove their superiority, and that's one of the root causes of being unable to admit that you're wrong.
Oddly enough, giving people that validation of being right tends to make you more attractive to other people. It also generally makes you more likable and more lovable, and men who are eays to love truly understand this concept.
6. 'I'm not comfortable doing that'
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It's normal for people to assume that having boundaries will make you unlikable or even perceived as "difficult." This is especially true if you have trauma related to boundary-pushing relatives. But setting boundaries and requirements for how you expect partners to treat you is absolutely vital to being seen as lovable and confident.
Now, here's the thing: it's not just about perception. People who have clearly-expressed boundaries end up having happier, more satisfying relationships. Boundaries are incredibly attractive and beneficial, and easy-to-love men set and maintain them.
7. 'I'm going to give you space'
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Remember that old adage about absence making the heart grow fonder? It's true. Being the person who is joined at the hip with their partner is not fun for anyone, even the couple in question. Even the most tolerant person will start to feel smothered by that type of partner.
Clingy partners tend to cling because of a fear of loss of control, according to psychology expert Susan Krauss Whitbourne. Being able to say that you need space or tell people that you're willing to give them space is a major green light. It also shows that you're in a mentally healthy state of mind.
8. 'Let's give it a try'
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If you've ever met someone who constantly turns down any idea that you come up with, you know how frustrating it can feel. They're the type of person who usually comes up with a million reasons why they can't do something, even before you explain what that something is.
But men who are easy to love are quick to say "let's give it a try," even if it's something they've never tried before. People don't realize how great it is to see a person who's really down for anything. It's adventurous, fun, and optimistic. After all, when you're open to a lot more of life's experiences, it's easy to have fun and create great memories.
9. 'I really trust you'
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In recent years, there's been a growing trend of advising men not to compliment others. Often packaged as a way to make a man seem more "valuable," this advice generally backfires. While you shouldn't put people on a pedestal or idealize a person, compliments are genuinely universally enjoyed.
Of course, you have to know how to compliment people. Compliments that make men lovable are ones that are genuine, appropriate, and observant. And a good rule of thumb is that you should compliment choices, not someone's body.
10. 'They're just a really great person'
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People don't just enjoy hearing compliments directed at them. While compliments are always nice to receive, people also like to see others speak well of other people around them. Among perceptive people, it's a major green flag.
As executive coach Shalini Matai pointed out, "When you describe someone as kind, loyal, or honest... listeners unconsciously associate you with those same traits. The opposite is also true. Criticize someone as manipulative or selfish, those around you will subtly connect those traits with you."
Most of us have heard that people who talk poorly about others will eventually do the same to you. But men who are easy to love say a simple phrase like this to not only compliment that person, but resist making negative comments. And it's quite a wonderful trait.
11. 'I'm here for you, just tell me when you need me'
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Our society has a major problem with people bailing on others when they're needed, often without an explanation. In dating and relationships, it's called ghosting, but during major events that require attendance, it's called flaking.
No matter what you call it, it's rude. Fortunately, men who are easy to love don't do that. They offer themselves up for support when their loved ones need it. More importantly, they actually show up. A man who does what he says he will is a rare find these days.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a writer whose work has been featured in Yahoo, BRIDES, Your Daily Dish, Newtheory Magazine, and others.
